I am contemplating the word "Trust". The value of insanity one feels in fulfilling the definition of this word is beyond comprehension. Here are some words about Trust (not mine) to reflect on:
Trust is both an emotional and logical act. Emotionally, it is where you expose your vulnerabilities to people, but believing they will not take advantage of your openness. Logically, it is where you have assessed the probabilities of gain and loss, calculating expected utility based on hard performance data, and concluded that the person in question will behave in a predictable manner. In practice, trust is a bit of both. I trust you because I have experienced your trustworthiness and because I have faith in human nature.
We feel trust. Emotions associated with trust include companionship, friendship, love, agreement, relaxation, comfort. There are a number of different ways we can define trust.
So why is it so hard to Trust in this life? Mistrust = doubt, uncertainty, skepticism, suspiciousness, etc.
We have all experienced times of uncertainty and doubt where we do not feel like the decision we made was the "right" one and therefore, don't trust our path is correct. We experience mistrust in relationships, in self-motives, in basic tests and examinations. Is there a defining moment where TRUST is simply that?
My thoughts: Trust means letting go of what is feared the most. Trusting Self is the "key" (old tried and true saying). So what does it mean to Trust one's Self? It means letting go of all preconceived notions about what Love is. This equates to allowing life to unfold in it's beautiful, mysterious, way without the need to change or control the outcome. Knowing that things happen for a reason - usually for personal growth and evolution - allows acceptance to occur easier and more frequently. This results in Trusting the process of Life and Love and subsequently, other people.
I have been no exception. This rant is only a reflection of my personal processing taking place and the lack of Trust I have carried with me for some time, even unnoticed. It takes a strong heart to be willing to look at one's own dark side, one's personal history (her-story) and unravel the grip that has constrained Love from ever truly being revealed in pure form. This journey is an opportunity to open my heart and let Love be free again. It doesn't mean that it is easy. It means that this realization is opening a door of opportunity to heal.
For me, this is the hardest part. Healing means allowing one's heart to open and actually "feel". This is the part of me that I resist the most. You see, Loving is "feeling" without boundaries. I have always been a professional at setting boundaries, placing walls, wearing masks to camophlauge the vulnerability I feel inside. This vulnerability is not an insecurity either. It is the Strength of the Woman that I am. It is the Power that resides in my Core. It is the breath that I breathe and hold at the same time. It is everything that I have always been and long to become and yet I continue to tell myself, "NO! You can NOT Trust. It is not safe to Trust yourself or anyone else. You will get HURT!" But to be free, I have to let go. I have to TRUST the process of letting go. I have to accept that sometimes "unknowns" in life are what, in actuality, allow themselves to be revealed when I open to Trusting the Universe for their arrival. Love will never come, will never open in my heart like a budding flower if I stay closed to experiencing every aspect and degree of which Love entails.
To Trust = To Let Go = To Accept = Revelation = Heart Opening = Healing (Tears) = Unconditional Love = Freedom!
Don't we all want this? Today, I make a personal decision that I DO!
Trust is both an emotional and logical act. Emotionally, it is where you expose your vulnerabilities to people, but believing they will not take advantage of your openness. Logically, it is where you have assessed the probabilities of gain and loss, calculating expected utility based on hard performance data, and concluded that the person in question will behave in a predictable manner. In practice, trust is a bit of both. I trust you because I have experienced your trustworthiness and because I have faith in human nature.
We feel trust. Emotions associated with trust include companionship, friendship, love, agreement, relaxation, comfort. There are a number of different ways we can define trust.
So why is it so hard to Trust in this life? Mistrust = doubt, uncertainty, skepticism, suspiciousness, etc.
We have all experienced times of uncertainty and doubt where we do not feel like the decision we made was the "right" one and therefore, don't trust our path is correct. We experience mistrust in relationships, in self-motives, in basic tests and examinations. Is there a defining moment where TRUST is simply that?
My thoughts: Trust means letting go of what is feared the most. Trusting Self is the "key" (old tried and true saying). So what does it mean to Trust one's Self? It means letting go of all preconceived notions about what Love is. This equates to allowing life to unfold in it's beautiful, mysterious, way without the need to change or control the outcome. Knowing that things happen for a reason - usually for personal growth and evolution - allows acceptance to occur easier and more frequently. This results in Trusting the process of Life and Love and subsequently, other people.
I have been no exception. This rant is only a reflection of my personal processing taking place and the lack of Trust I have carried with me for some time, even unnoticed. It takes a strong heart to be willing to look at one's own dark side, one's personal history (her-story) and unravel the grip that has constrained Love from ever truly being revealed in pure form. This journey is an opportunity to open my heart and let Love be free again. It doesn't mean that it is easy. It means that this realization is opening a door of opportunity to heal.
For me, this is the hardest part. Healing means allowing one's heart to open and actually "feel". This is the part of me that I resist the most. You see, Loving is "feeling" without boundaries. I have always been a professional at setting boundaries, placing walls, wearing masks to camophlauge the vulnerability I feel inside. This vulnerability is not an insecurity either. It is the Strength of the Woman that I am. It is the Power that resides in my Core. It is the breath that I breathe and hold at the same time. It is everything that I have always been and long to become and yet I continue to tell myself, "NO! You can NOT Trust. It is not safe to Trust yourself or anyone else. You will get HURT!" But to be free, I have to let go. I have to TRUST the process of letting go. I have to accept that sometimes "unknowns" in life are what, in actuality, allow themselves to be revealed when I open to Trusting the Universe for their arrival. Love will never come, will never open in my heart like a budding flower if I stay closed to experiencing every aspect and degree of which Love entails.
To Trust = To Let Go = To Accept = Revelation = Heart Opening = Healing (Tears) = Unconditional Love = Freedom!
Don't we all want this? Today, I make a personal decision that I DO!
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